Magic Mike’s Matt Bomer Talks About Being Out as Gay: What Brought Him to Tears?
Matt Bomer doesn’t like talking about his private life.
And even if the White Collar star did publicly aknowledge he was gay earlier this year, he’s not about to start spilling anytime soon.
“I never really endeavored to hide anything,” Bomer, 34, told me this weekend while promoting his new movie, Magic Mike. “But there were times I chose not to relegate my history to the back page of a magazine, which to me is sort of akin to putting your biography on a bathroom wall.”
Not that he dismisses the importance of being an out actor.
“I had somebody from the military approach me a few weeks ago just saying how this helps people, affects people,” Bomer said. “It brought me to tears.”
I go so far as to suggest that he could be saving young gay people’s lives. “I hope so,” he said. “They need saving, certainly in this day and age as much as ever—no matter how much we think we’ve progressed.”
His coming out was as subtle as they come. Bomer simply thanked his longtime partner, Hollywood publicist Simon Halls, and their three children, Kit, Walker and Henry, when he was honored by the Desert AIDS Fund in Palm Springs in February.
“What we really have to do is stop the adjective before the job title—whether it’s ‘black actor,’ a ‘gay actor’ or ‘anything actor,’” Bomer said. “Everybody thinks that equality comes from identifying people, and that’s not where equality comes from. Equality comes from treating everybody the same regardless of who they are. I hope the media and the press catches on to that because it’s time to move out of 1992.”
Bomer certainly dispels the notion that coming out will hurt an actor’s career.
As you probably know by now, he’s one of the many pieces of man candy actors in Magic Mike (out on Friday), director Steven Soderbergh‘s movie inspired by Channing Tatum‘s prefame days as a stripper. “When they called me, I thought, ‘Do they have the wrong number? Did they mean to call the guy from Vampire Diaries?’” Bomer said, laughing. “And at the time I was really skinny so I think there may have been a five-minute window from when I hung up the phone to when I went to the gym.” (FYI: He put on about 15 pounds for the role.)
One dance sequence shows him dressed as a doctor but stripping on top of an audience member who is laying on a gurney on the stage. “Channing told me, ‘You have to use the stretcher and just get up on this girl and grind your junk in her face,’” Bomer remembered.
He did just that. “But this girl was not going to just sit there and be ground upon,” Bomer said. “She started licking me in all kinds of special places and we just kept going…It was one of those situations where you were in an environment where moral parameters are not the same as they are if you’re doing a political drama. You just sort of have to say yes to everything and embrace it.”
Thankfully, Bomer said, his kids are too young for flick.
“But one day when they are old enough, they can watch it,” he said. “I’ll be able to say, ‘Hey, your old man used to be in shape. He might not be anymore, but he used to be in shape. Now, go get me a beer.’”